A story from the archives of my nervous system. Part I There are stories I've never told before. Not because I've forgotten them. If anything, it's the opposite. They've stayed with me. They've lived quietly inside me for years. To be honest, I'm not entirely sure why I've kept t…
Lately, I've been thinking about how much my context has changed. A decade ago, I was deeply religious. And in those spaces, you’re often taught to deny yourself. That phrase can mean many things, but in Western evangelical Christianity, it usually translates to denying your desi…
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I think it’s okay to miss something and not want it back. In my previous relationship, my partner and I almost had a baby together. We had a miscarriage. And years later, I guess I’m still working through it. There are days I go back to the imagination I had of what my baby was g…
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Life After Deconstruction: Where Do We Go Next? Lately I’ve been thinking about the reality of life after deconstruction. So what do I mean by deconstruction? It’s the process of unlearning and relearning. Of questioning what you’ve been indoctrinated with, what you grew up with.…
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What Does Belonging Really Mean? Book club the other night. We were talking about Brené Brown’s The Gifts of Imperfection. Shame. Perfectionism. The loops we get stuck in. And then— belonging. A prompt was given regarding belonging. And before I knew it, the words came out of my…
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What Kind of God Do You Believe In? This morning I woke up thinking about something an old mentor, someone who felt more like a spiritual mother once told me. It was during a deeply sensitive season of my life: the first time I came out of the closet. At the time, I was part of a…
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I once heard a quote that said: “Don’t take advice from someone whose life you don’t want.” I don’t know who said it, or where I first heard it, but it stuck with me. It slapped me across the face—in the best way—because it made me realize just how many of the thoughts I carry ar…
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